I’ve reached 1 MILLION VIEWS on the digital video I did for Ford Philippines!
1. “Not convinced. Privileged.”
To some extent, yes I have been privileged.
I have been very lucky to have such hardworking parents put my siblings and I through great schools. We have food on the table three times a day, we are clothed and we have a roof over our heads. I’ve also been lucky to have met with people at the right place and at the right time.
But here’s where it differs.
I don’t really need to convince you that I have worked hard for my success. Even some of the most privileged don’t enjoy the same kind of opportunities and wins I have had simply because they don’t put in the work. My family is no elite and my siblings and I were brought up knowing that if we wanted something, we had to earn it.
I acknowledge all my privileges but I am in no way entitled, and I refuse to be. Everything worth having takes grit, guts, hard work, and a relentless drive. To keep that for the long haul is even harder.
Also, try being a woman at my age in any industry. When you’re automatically passed judgment for simply being young and a girl, you know you have to put your nose to the grindstone and prove people wrong EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
So boy, unless you’re any of that, you have no right to call girls like me out on “privilege”.
2. “First thing she said ‘I LIKE PROVING PEOPLE WRONG’… I already feel bad for the guy she’s with/will be with… Haha.”
Speaking of proving people wrong…
OH, THE PATRIARCHY IN THIS SOCIETY IS UNREAL.
Onyok, I don’t really have time for weak-minded guys who think it’s such an unfortunate thing to have strong, independent women by their side. I actually feel bad for guys who have such low standards.
My girls, the great Nicki Minaj once said: “Earn what you have. It’s not cool to be a loser. Go to school, graduate, get your own. Because when it’s all said and done, they can say whatever they want to say about you, but they can’t take it from you. Stop giving them goodies away to every [guy]. They ain’t worth it.”
#3 “She’s a total 10 on a 1-10 scale, you need to be a superman to date her.” + “Tatandang dalaga yan (She will grow up to be an old maid.)”
Whenever I’m asked about the things that I do and I talk to them about it (albeit casually, and I promise, never in a boastful way), I will always get one of the following (if not all) comments:
a. “Wow, high maintenance ka pala.” (I didn’t know you were high maintenance!)
b. “Kaya ka walang boyfriend / love life eh.” (That’s why you have no boyfriend / love life!)
c. “Ang intense mo.” (You’re intense!)
d. “Nakakalalaki ka.” ( You’re insulting my manhood.)
At this point, I now make no effort to hide my eye roll. I really appreciate the recognition of my strengths and how one may feel as if they need to step up to the plate to date women like me. I take these comments as filters, separating more meaningful people from the insecure. Thank you, Earl for a 10/10 rating, I feel like a blockbuster movie.
And a special shout-out to those who still think that marriage and child-bearing is the end all and be all of life as a woman. Girls, you do you. Let no one define your worth and keep going for gold!
“I don’t need a ring around my finger to make me feel complete.” – Pussycat Dolls lol
#4 “Cat? I shall call you wiswiswiswis”
I actually responded to this one.
And yes, I will respond to wiswiswiswis.
#5 “Jiu-jitsu won’t do you good in a street fight, but avoiding and running can.”
Please do tell us more about how to avoid a street fight. I’m sure a lot of people who have been victimized by similar street violence would love to hear about it.
I also want to see you try running from a man with a gun.
Let me also just plug this in, for those who want to get into jiu-jitsu, join TEAM VALORES (https://www.facebook.com/teamvaloresbjj/)! 😉
#6 It takes a gutt heaven defying guy…
#7 Horseback riding in Tagaytay
Have any thoughts to these comments? Personal experiences? Additional advice? Leave a comment below or shoot me a DM on Facebook or Instagram (@sinosicat).