1.) Start being grateful
Being grateful does not mean appreciating the material gifts you’ve received. It’s something deeper. Be grateful for the people around you, the people that make you the great person you are, and the events that have occurred that have helped you grow and learn. No, you don’t have to list down the number of people you’re grateful for, because it’s physically impossible to do so. Don’t EVER think that no one’s got your back. Don’t think that you’ve crossed the finish line of 2011 all by yourself. Be grateful for all the times you’ve ran and tripped, experienced roadblocks and crossroads.
Be grateful for the small things. Be grateful for the house you live in, the gadget, the hands, and eyes you use to read this (and to do more important things), and the endless love you’re getting and giving. Be grateful that you got to wake up this morning (each morning we awaken to is a miracle to be grateful for)!
2.) Start facing your problems
Dolly Parton once said: “The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.“
Fix your problems, don’t run away. Of course, getting through your problems will take a great deal of courage. But you must remember that courage is not the absence of fear, but knowing and understanding that something else is more important than fear. It’s a new year with a new set of problems, don’t put the old ones off for you to worry about next year. Keep things uncomplicated. For yourself, especially.
3.) Start respecting yourself
RESPECT YOURSELF. There’s a very thin line between being generous and being a push-over/doormat/too gullible. Too thin that you might not be able to tell the difference. Once or twice, you may feel like you’re being taken advantage of. That’s okay. But not the third time.
To ultimately find out who you are or figure yourself out, you must also stop trying to follow what people “think” is cool or uncool. I support you in being different and being yourself! Knowing who you are and respecting that DEFINES your character and will for sure make you feel better physically, emotionally, and spiritually. And it will reflect in the way you carry yourself and the way you approach people.
Don’t do something you know you’re unsure of (especially when you know you’ll regret it). Keep things classy.
4.) Start relationships for the right reasons
Don’t get into any relationship with your personal gain in mind. A strong relationship has the foundation of steel robot unicorns and mutual love! From personal experience, I have been through the whole “I’ll-get-in-this-cause-I’m-being-pressured” and hurt in the end. I’ve read the last few pages, and it never ended well.
5.) Start investing
Learn about the magical world of investment! Don’t deprive yourself of the possibilities of a better future. Money, relationships, skills, and more, it’s always better to think long-term. Invest and harvest the fruits of your labor in the future. It will assure you of quality of life and improve your spending habits. When you invest early, time is on your side. Speaking in a business-manner, having time on your side means having a longer time period of being able to save money to invest and a longer time period of being able to find investments that can increase in value quiten nicely. You can relate this to other things, too.
Invest in experience. Every time you can, go to a place you’ve never gone before.
6.) Start forgiving and letting go
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute to the strong,” says the great Mahatma Ghandi.
Those who choose not to forgive or continuously dig up the past (and refuse to let go) are scared. Scared of what might happen and are not afraid to take the next step. With that said, those people keep their lives on suspension and never move forward.
Keep an open heart and mind. Forgiveness is such a brave thing to do, but there’s no risk to it really. You’re doing it also for yourself.
7.) Start being happy for others
I’ve mentioned you “respecting yourself”. Now you must also remember to respect others! Golden rule: Don’t do unto others what you don’t want them to do to you.
When they achieve and do great, be happy for them! Appreciate what they have achieved and they will do the same. If they don’t, well… you don’t really have to ask for anything back (but you can send them the link to this post, too. Haha!) I think it’s pretty obvious that being HAPPY is a gazillion times less stressful than being envious or hating on people’s success and happiness.
8.) Start being the person you want to be
If the person you want to be is someone followed, then lead! When are you too old to say “When I grow up, I want to be…”? I admire those who, at a young age, have already figured out and know who they want to be. It takes time to know yourself and to even change (for the better) if you have to, and sometimes it takes longer than expected. But it’s part of the process, resorting to a quicker route a.k.a. being someone else will NOT make things any easier for you (especially in the long run).
Everyone’s different and you’re not going to experience the EXACT same things that the other person’s going to go through (vice versa). You can’t always think that someone else’s sure fire recipe to success will work out the same for you as well. Get a goal and score. To each his or her own method, it may take a few changes, but make sure it will make YOU happy.
“You’ve got to follow your passion. You’ve got to figure out what it is you love–who you really are. And have the courage to do that. I believe that the only courage anybody ever needs is the courage to follow your own dream.”
9.) Start loving
Zero the hate. Learn to appreciate! It’s good for your health.
10.) Start living a meaningful life
You must learn to STAND UP for something. To succeed, you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something (and someone) to inspire you. Whether it be for children, for the self-proclaimed hopeless, for love, etc.
No matter what theory you believe in (the Bible’s Genesis, the Big Bang Theory, the Incredible Bulk, etc.), we were all brought here for a reason. And each of us has a purpose. The reason why these problems and issues surface are for us to take action on and learn from it.
“You see, it’s never the environment; it’s never the events of our lives, but the meaning we attach to the events – how we interpret them – that shapes who we are today and who we’ll become tomorrow.”
– Tony Robbins